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23 May 2012 @ 04:48 pm
100 Things: Life Lesson #6 I've Learned From My Dogs  
Flirting is an important life skill.

Clearly, as I've learned this from my dogs, I don't mean the 'sexual' type of flirting, although it is also an important skill to develop. What the dogs have taught me about flirting is that focusing on the object of your "interest" will almost always ensure your success. Want a clerk at a store to search for a different size for you? Strike up a conversation. Compliment their shirt, their hair, or their shoes. Want the waiter to bring you more bread? Focus on them as a person not just a waiter.

This sounds manipulative, doesn't it? But that's not what I mean. Everyone likes feeling special, that they are the object of someone's attention. Think about a time someone focused solely on you. Made you feel warm inside, didn't it? That you wanted to continue to be around that person because of the way they made you feel about yourself.

The dogs can flirt with us as effectively as people. They don't have words but they have tails that wag, ears that stand up straight when we talk to them, eyes that focus just on us. They can look at us and we know we are the most important in the world at that precise moment. And how can that ever be a bad thing?

Try it sometime. Focus your attention on someone you don't generally interact with. Smile. Compliment them, sincerely. See if you don't get their focus in return. You'll both feel better for the experience! You have my guarantee. And more importantly, the guarantee of my six dogs!

Current Mood: flirty
bluedelft on May 23rd, 2012 09:33 pm (UTC)
It is so true! When you treat a waiter like a person do you notice that you always get great service?! I've seen the way people treat waiters so it must be a nice change for them.

Think about a time someone focused solely on you. Made you feel warm inside, didn't it?

So true!
Are 6 dogs too many?: Group Hugtkeylasunset on May 23rd, 2012 10:57 pm (UTC)
I could never be in food service. I'd "accidentally" spill food on too many people!! I do not suffer fools gladly, I'll admit.

We all need the light to shine on us from time to time!

bluedelft on May 23rd, 2012 11:17 pm (UTC)
I could never be in food service. I'd "accidentally" spill food on too many people!!

Same here!

Lizet Elaine: Hawaii Five 0::Danny & Steve::hugsimplyn2deep on May 23rd, 2012 10:18 pm (UTC)
tell me why I pictured Steve & Danny while reading this...WHY?!

but it's all true.
Are 6 dogs too many?: new kirk and spocktkeylasunset on May 23rd, 2012 10:58 pm (UTC)
I totally did too!! You'll also find it with Kirk and Spock. All true, healthy friendships/romances contain an element of flirting, no matter how long you've been with that special someone.

--♫ Anna--rocsfan on May 23rd, 2012 10:42 pm (UTC)

What a great lesson! Everyone like to feel important. Can you see me focusing on you? O_O
Are 6 dogs too many?: my danno heartstkeylasunset on May 23rd, 2012 10:59 pm (UTC)
I can!! Warms my soul!!!


Thank you!
a geek in such the wrong way: H50-smittenhaldoor on May 24th, 2012 09:43 am (UTC)
This is true. We all like to feel people notice us, so the obvious thing is to turn that on to the other person when you're talking to them, and when they feel good, so do you! ;-) I like to tell people I work with when I like what they're wearing, or think they look especially good - it really does make you feel good to make them feel good!
Are 6 dogs too many?: mcdannotkeylasunset on May 24th, 2012 01:38 pm (UTC)
It's true. Happiness is contagious!

Thank you for the lovely reminder!